I've been able to Skype with Steven several times, it has really made a difference in how I feel, and how he feels too I believe. He calls me before he goes to bed, and usually when he gets up if he has time. Even a 30 second check in can make a world of difference in how a soldier handles a deployment, he or she needs to know that their loved ones are there any time of the day or night, and that we will pick up the phone or Skype, or whatever. That quick I Love You can make all the difference in how the day goes.
I had a lot of trouble at the beginning of Steven's deployment, I had to make some major changes in my life to be able to deal with it. The fights between us had to stop, no matter how petty there were or how important. The time we have to talk has to be spent constructively, he has to know I love him no matter what. I quit my job as a teacher effective Friday Sept. 13th, I can't concentrate on my students when I'm worried about my son's safety and my dad's health, and my own situation financially due to my student loans, taxes due, etc.
One thing that has been on my mind though that I can't reconcile with is the lack of faith in the unit he is with. I am not alone in this, other parents, spouses, siblings, and friends of other soldiers have contacted me. There is a group among this unit that are very childish in their behavior, and they are bullies. You would think going into a situation like this they would grow up. I worry about Steven, I don't trust his battle buddies to have his back if push comes to shove. When we were at Ft. Hood for the Family Day it was brought home how divisive this group is. It is segregated badly and that segregation starts with their leader. My grandfather was the "Soldier's Officer", this guy doesn't talk to anyone below his rank, and totally ignores the enlisted members unless there is a photo op. I saw this in Chicago, I saw it in Ft. Hood, I hope he grows up and realizes that without the troops under him, his little piece of brass has no meaning whatsoever.
Well said Kate!
ReplyDeleteIt will all go well. My husband got in trouble for me posting on the 490th facebook page which is ridiculous.
The guys he is with are very immature..constantly clicking their guns. I just want everybody to return safely and then I want him to be done with this unit.